If you’re a feminist and you want equal rights, then you do not complain when a man hits you. I do not approve of domestic abuse, but you can’t complain about a man hitting you, if you want to be considered an equal. You either fully believe in equality or you accept men and women are different.
the choice is yours. I will lose respect for you if you believe both genders should be equal unless a man hits you and you complain.
Okay princess, listen up:
If a man hits me, and it is because we are in a fucking fist fight then, no, I’m not going to complain. I am not going to throw punches and then turn around and play the “you can’t hit me! I’m a girl!” card if he throws one back.
If a man hits me and I have a relationship with that man in any way, and he lashes out because of anger, stress, poor impulse control, etc. then I am going to say something because that is where the power is in this situation. The abuser (in many situations) is trying to assert a position of power or dominance. Making a complaint, reporting it, saying “he hit me and he can’t do that” isn’t weak, it’s taking your power back because he hit you and he can’t do that because you are not weaker than him and he can’t make you feel that way.
And talking about equality? It’s the same if a woman hits a man. Asserting dominance and power, and, ironically, the power behind “I’m a woman so you can’t hit me back.” And he should complain. Report it. Say “she him me and she can’t do that.” Because reporting her wouldn’t put him in a position of being better or more than her, just the equal standings there should be.
What’s sexist about any of this is that a man is probably less likely to be taken seriously about his complaint because of the sexism toward woman influencing people into thinking men can’t be abused or raped, especially not by women. Which is wrong.
To sum up
- (me + man) + fistfight = Okay, wearing a brown coat in an Alliance-friendly bar on Unification Day and insulting a drunken rambler was not my best idea ever.
- me + (man + abuse) = report it, because I am not less than you because we are equals
- man + (me + abuse) = report it, because he is not less than me because we are equals
And just so you get it
- Man on woman -> NEVER OKAY
- Woman on man -> NEVER OKAY
- Woman on woman -> NEVER OKAY
- Man on man -> NEVER OKAY